Fight for you
Respect you
Inspire you
Encourage you
Need you
Deserve you
Supposely the acronym above is for word friendS where S would stand for save you. But i di not want to write it as for this kind of friend, it rarely exist in a person life more than 1.
Get it?
Life being great now. Only 12 days more for my final exam.
I got some problem with my so called friend. I did not like my 'tone' of writing because it just make you, the readers, feels like I am blaming and hating them. Yes. I am. But I am denying it so I can change because this feeling kills my heart.
Islam teaching , as it is a religion that covers every aspect of life also has its own way of defining a friend. I read kitab Ihya Ulumuddin by Imam Al Ghazali. There is this one clear explanation on what friend truly are.
Alqamah pernah memberikan wasiat kepada puteranya dan ia berkata, "Wahai anakku, jikalau engkau berasa perlu utk bersahabat dgn seseorang maka pilihlah yg mempunyai sifat-sifat ini, iaitu jikalau engkau melayaninya, ia suka melindungimu,jikalau engkau bersahabat dgnnya, ia akan merupakan hiasan bg dirimu, dan jikalau engkau dlm keadaan kekurangan, ia mencukupi keperluan mu
Pilihla seorang sahabat yg apabila engkau menghulurkan tanganmu utk memberikan jasa baik atau bantuanmu ia suka menerima dgn rasa terharu, jikalau ia melihat kebaikan dari dirimu, ia suka menghitungnya dan menganggapnya sangat berguna, sedangkan jikalau ia mengetahui keburukan dari dirimu ia menutupnya.
Pilihla sahabat yg jikalau engkau meminta sesuatu darinya, pasti ia memberi, jikalau engkau diam ia menyapamu dahulu dan jikalau ada sesuatu kesukaran dan kesedihan yg menimpa dirimu ia membantu dan meringankan serta menghiburkanmu.
Pilihla sahabat yg jikalau engkau berkata-kata ia membenarkan ucapanmu dan selalu mempercayainya, jikalau engkau menghadapi sesuatu persoalan yg berat ia membantumu menghadapinya dan jikalau engkau berselisih faham dengannya, ia mengalah utk kepentinganmu"
A non muslim friend of me, read this, and she like joking saying this is she. This mean she look up to friendship in Islam. But one thing we need to know and I want to focus on, in Islam, we are all sisters and brothers, "kita bersaudara"
And that bond is stronger.
I want to have a good friend/saudara like this but first I want to be this kind of person to others first. There is one good tip on being a good friend to others.
Treat others, anyone, anybody, just as you want to be treated.
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